Control Your Own Destiny. The World Will Find You.

46 years later I am in the perfect position to utilize the thousands of dollars of therapy to explain something that my thirteen year old daughter taught me in 2 minutes. It is futile to try to control another human being.. at least by trying to control them. You must have your own boundaries and your own beliefs and then you must STICK BY THEM to succeed in life. 

I know you still don't get what I am talking about because it is human nature to try with futility to control others. This won't sink in for a few minutes but I will keep trying to make sense of it all. Let's take husbands for you married people. Or spouses. I'm only going to speak for myself so I'll stick to my husband, How do I say this? I might as well bash my head into a brick wall or light the house on fire to get Bryan to be ready for any event on time. Some of our most memorable "moments" are when a large amount of guests are expected and I am dressed, ready and he is outside power washing the sidewalk (that no-one will see) and saunters in 2 minutes to go and still needs to shower and change. It's been almost 15 years people. Tears, reminders, fires, nothing has changed this. It feels like he doesn't respect my wishes, but I have learned that it has nothing to do with me. And to be honest, he always stays up until 1am to clean the dishes and house. So what if I can't control his.. powerwashing. 

What hurts us more? Not knowing that you can control anything or knowing it and still wanting to. Knowing that you can save your self from pain, except you can't. Knowing it's better for someone you love to go through something than for us to try and change the outcome. We limit ourselves so much in the avoidance of pain that we end up cheating ourselves from the freedom in living.

We cannot control others, but that doesn't mean we can't control ourselves, our own choices, and our own destiny. We have more power the more we let go. You can let go of what you can't control without letting go of yourself. You were given this life.. don't worry about everyone else. There are 7.5 billion people in the world today. Don't worry about fixing or changing or convincing one or two people. Control your own destiny. The world will find you.